A Perfect Wedding - Part 2

In my last blog post I pondered the question - what makes a perfect wedding? And, I believe my thoughts on the topic were fairly salient at the time. I had just returned from serving as officiant at a beautiful wedding near Houston - and was still caught up in the magic of it all. My thoughts and impressions of that particular event have not changed. It was beautiful, and perfect, and memorable. It was also heterosexual, and therefore legal in the state of Texas, and perfectly "normal." And, I was honored to be part of such a remarkably memorable event.

But, what about perfect love which is not allowed its time of perfect union? What about a vast segment of our earth's populace who are not allowed the same rights of marriage as others? What is it about love between two people of the same gender that so inflames our society?

Conservative religious folk would point to the Bible for their answer. I also point to the Bible and the teachings of Jesus on love, and ask the question - what bad can come from two mature adults who love each other, who desire the right to marry, the right to raise children, to have a family; who desire to channel love from the divine One - and be legally recognized as married when they do so?

Today, at midnight, New York officially legalized same sex marriage, becoming only the 6th state, out of 50, to legally recognize the right of same sex couples to wed. I read a great story today about the first couple to wed in that state, with the officiant pronouncing them "legally married" at the stroke of midnight, July 24, 2011.   

Kitty Lambert and Cheryle Rudd married each other last night. (Hundreds more couples are being married today in NY as I write this.) And, by all accounts, it was the Perfect Wedding. There was a cake, music by Lady Gaga and dancing, friends and well-wishers, even strangers, showed up wanting to show their love and support of "love without boundaries" - all with rainbow-hued Niagara Falls as backdrop. I am sure it was beautiful, and made all the more meaningful because of the struggle that brought Kitty and Cheryle and hundreds more, to that place, on this day, for this purpose. Perfect!

I asked the question in blog #1 on this topic - what made the perfect wedding? I came to the conclusion then, as now, that it is the people. People.

The people who have fought for equality at the legislative and judicial levels for so many years now. The people who have supported the struggle through donations, letters to their Representatives, and words of encouragement to those on the front lines. The legislators in those 6 states who dared to vote "yea" instead of "nay" when the vote to legalize gay marriage was called on the floor. The brave ministers who have officiated at the marriages of gay couples, at their own personal and professional risk.

The people. Diverse people from all walks of life - young and old, gay and straight, tall and short, large and small. Yes, it is the people who make a wedding perfect - and it is Love.

People after all are vessels of love. We are the protectors and purveyors of love. I believe love is the source of all good, and flows from the Source of all Goodness. When we open ourselves - body, mind, spirit - to love from the Divine, we open ourselves up to the possibility of love, to the spreading of love in this world. And, my friends, this world sorely needs more love!

To be sure, there are a lot of people on this earth who do not know love and do not speak love; in fact they seem to thrive on just the opposite -  the infamous religious family from Wichita Kansas springs readily to mind. But, they are not the majority. Despite the constant images and news stories in the mainstream media today, hate is not the overarching principle which guides humanity. It is love.

So, I applaud the State of New York, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, Massachusetts and Maine (and the city of San Francisco) for legalizing same sex marriage. I urge the 44 other states to follow suit. I congratulate the happy couples who are today beginning a new stage of their love relationship and commitment together, full of dreams and hopes and promises of a future together as wife and wife, husband and husband.

To quote a song - Love is indeed, a many-splendored thing. People and love. This is what makes a perfect wedding. I write in celebration of love today - in all its forms. May it always persevere. May it always win out over hate. May it always flourish.

The fight for marriage equality is far from over. Nay, it has only just begun. Six states have legalized it; forty-four states to go. How can you show your support for marriage equality today?